Do you know why I feel this way towards you and my other so-called friends?!? It’s because whenever you needed someone to support you in any way I was one of the first friends to be there. You all know that! But when I was the one who needed a friend and this was a really tough time, where were you? Ah, yes, you were busy. I see.
You are having a tough time right now. I understand as much. It’s really not that hard to have a love one die before your very eyes, right? Yup, I get it. You can’t even send a text message or call. You can’t even send a Facebook message explaining why you couldn’t be there for a friend. Ah, yes, you did. Days after the burial. I see.
I’d like to think that a friend is one of the spices of life. Friends are given to us so that we have someone else besides our families. We have friends to teach us a lesson, to see us through the good and bad times.
I am glad I have my friends to keep me grounded. I have my friends to see me through life. I have my friends to make me smile when I am down, to make me laugh when the world seems bent on angering me, and to love me when I seem to be so unlovable to everyone else.
The usual suspects: Tim, Jing and I (minus Shen now living in Chicago… we miss her a lot!). The semi-regulars: Rachelle, Cynch and Ronaldo. And then there’s our former high school History teacher Sir Jess whom we see twice a year when he goes on vacation from his teaching job in Jakarta. We had post-Christmas dinner last December 26 Tim, Jing, Rollyne, Sir Jess and I. And another one last January 6th. Both dinners were such riots we all went home smiling like crazies!
Sir Jess was on vacation since the 18th of December and whenever he goes on vacation, he would tell me to set up a get-together. I look forward to get-togethers with old friends because I know I am in the company of good people who understand and know me. I can be me and not pretend to be someone else with them.
We always choose to go to dining places where we can stay for hours. The second get-together we had coffee after. There is always not enough time to be with good friends. You always end up wishing you can stay some more.
It’s an art craft set with beads, yarns and fake cute kid tattoos. It also has ribbons and a plain white headband that can be decorated by the kid. The set is perfect to bring out a kid’s creativity. When Hazel saw it, she immediately became excited and created a bracelet of her own.
September is a very busy month for me and the family. Three birthdays are in line this month: today is my youngest sister’s, on the 19th for my sister next to me, and on the 26th is my youngest brother’s. My mom’s death anniversary is on the 29th. Let me also include in this month’s numerous events my very good friend’s birthday on the 17th.
It will be a very busy month for us so whenever someone asks if I am free to meet up, my automatic response is by October. Aside from the fact that it will be a weekly family affair (birthday celebrations is a big deal for us so presence is required), it is also a costly month so all the extra funds will go to buying gifts.
I’m not much of a social creature but I treasure the few people I connect with.
Which is very true in my situation right now. My top priorities are work and family. So the few people who can understand that are the people I am still friends with. My high school friends are the ones I still connect with and the ones I am closest to. I’ve been friends with them for the past 18 years already. Imagine that! There was a time when the communication was rocky because we were all very busy living our own lives. I am glad that we reconnected once again and we now see each other regularly.
There are two new little angels who came today to live with us. Their names are Ayen and Gab. They are my best friend’s kids. My best friend and her husband are both working abroad and the kids are temporarily left under my care. I am not the only one who got excited over the fact that two new angels will be living with us. Hazel is the most excited of us all!
Ayen, Ninin and Gab
Hazel now has a playmate at home!
Future supermodels!
We celebrated my Dad’s birthday yesterday. He said that Ayen and Gab are his gifts for his birthday. Two kids he can dote on aside from Hazel.
I do hope our new little angels will find our home a happy place to live in
I miss Devilicious. She’s my blogging mentor. If not for her, I wouldn’t be where I am now. She taught me almost everything I know about blogging and monetizing a blog. She was generous in what she knew and never asked for anything in return.
I haven’t seen her online in months. Last I heard from her, she’s already back in the corporate grind. She’s not as active in blogging as she was in the past.
I miss her! And our almost daily chats. I wish she’d go back to blogging and be active once again.
My sisters and I have people in our lives with whom we’ve been friends with since we were very young. My sister Rox has a bestfriend she’s known since they were in second grade. She’s 28 years now. Imagine how long the two of them have been bestfriends already. Her bestfriend got married last 8th of this month. She’s maid of honor. Since we also know her, she’s part of the family already, she and her husband got my dad to be principal sponsor. I attended the wedding with Hazel and my other sister, too. It was a family affair!
It’s good to be part of a special event in a family friend’s life. Especially one we’ve known since she’s a little girl. My dad also knows her parents. It’s a small world for all of us and I am very happy to be part of something as special as her wedding day.
You won’t know how much you’ve missed your friends until you see them in person after a long while…
I saw my friends last December 4. The three girls in the photo near me I meet up with regularly. But the others I don’t see often. And we are not complete there. There are a couple more now living or working outside the country.
I am thankful that I still get to see old friends even from time to time only. And these are friends I’ve had since grade and high school! I know some are not as lucky as me.
This video of Points of View by Joey Albert is for my friends Tim, Jing and Shen who’s been with me for the past 18 years (and counting!)…
It’s both happy and sad for us right now. One of the three will be going out of the country very, very soon. The four of us have been regularly seeing each other. It would be less fun with one of us not physically present anymore.
Still, it’s a happy occasion because girl will be spending her new life with someone she loves…
I wish I can tell my friend that life will be okay soon and make it happen.
I wish I can make her feel okay.
I wish she can find the solution to her mounting problems.
I wish I can give her the help that she needs. NOW.
But all I can do is listen. Advice. Remind her that God won’t leave her and forsake her.
All I can do is say things like “I feel for you.” “I’ve been in the same situation and have come out fine.” “Pray hard and things will turn out fine, I’m sure of it.” But when?
I wish I can make things better but all I can be is a friend who won’t leave her in this time of need.
My Own Utopia was conceived when my main blog became too "commercialized". I needed a more personal place, my own utopia, where I can write about my personal experiences, the blessings that come my way, my faith, inspirations in my life, and other things that has a more personal tone.
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