I was talking to my sisters last night about how a dominant mother usually ends up with a weak son. I’ve seen them around. I know men who are exactly like that. Weak men who has a very controlling mother. They see their fathers acquiescing to their mothers most of the time and have known only meekness from men towards women. They end up becoming weak men. Spineless. With low self-esteem. I am not saying all men with dominant mothers are like that. I am just saying that most end up being weak because they are used to women being the strong one.
Also, I am not saying that it’s not right for a man to acquiesce to a woman’s demands. It is very sweet of a man to do that. But not all the time. I think that’s tantamount to giving the woman so much power over him. He’d end up always relying on what the woman needs and wants and he giving in all the time.
I told my sisters that it was a fear I had. I am a dominant person. I think it comes with being the eldest. Growing up, I didn’t see my mom lording over my dad. But I did see my dad giving in to some of my mom’s demands. Me, on the other hand, grew up with almost everyone giving in to my requests and demands. I am the eldest child and grandchild (maternal side). So you can only imagine how much power I wield over the parents and grandparents. I used to fear that I would end up marrying a man who would just be a doormat to me. It’s mean of me to think of it that way but you’ve seen men like these. I used to tell friends that I would find a man who will dominate me. Someone who won’t be giving in to my every demand but would make some demands himself. Someone who can control my impulsiveness.
Some women might find this weird. I know some women want men who will give in to their every request and demand. That’s not me. Life will be utterly boring if everything you want will be given to you easily. And when the one person with whom you want to be equal with will just be giving in all the time.
I will do everything in my power to achieve my plans for this year. I will work really hard. I will get a third job if I need to. I will write those MS and hopefully gets accepted. I will write more each day until my back is aching and sweat is pouring down my face.
Everything possible I will do.
I don’t want 2011 to end without achieving any of the plans I have!
I had this really great boss who was also my mentor. She was the type of boss who lets you do your work alone. She didn’t hover. She wasn’t like others who breathe down your neck when there’s a deadline to meet. She would ask you when you could give the reports to her and that’s it. If there’s something she wanted you to do, she would ask you if you knew how and when you could give it to her. I don’t know exactly the type of authority she wielded over us but I can say that it’s based on trust.
She thought me so many things that I was able to use as I climbed the corporate ladder. For that I will always be thankful to her.
I have so many plans for 2011. The top priority is to lose weight and be healthy. And to earn more. But to do both, first, I need to start managing my time well. As you might have gleaned from my posts here, I am very fond of procrastination. I often complain about it but I kept doing it again and again and again.
This year, though, if I plan to accomplish anything at all, I need to stop it. Truly, once and for all, STOP PROCRASTINATING!
Otherwise, I might end up being the same as I was this past year. Always moving things to tomorrow.
I just saw my aunt and she told me that she thought I doubled in size! Huhuhu! How heartbreaking is that?!?
Actually I do know that I really added a lot of weight since the last time I saw my aunt. That was a couple of weeks ago. Imagine the time span and when she saw me she thought I already doubled in size! She reminded me that I am not getting any younger so there is a desperate need for me to lose weight NOW. I know it. I swear I will gather all the self-control that I can muster and will start something.
I have always wanted to try yoga. I think it will be very beneficial to me because it will bring me peace and quiet. It will calm my nerves. It will most likely help cease my worrying. And it will help me deal with energy issues.
Do you know what’s stopping me? I am afraid I’d make a food of myself! I don’t know if I can even do any of those yoga poses they do. What if I look really stupid trying to stand on my head or stretch my arms and legs and end up falling down?
I was very lucky to have worked with really good Americans. I worked for a call center business with an American country manager here. Where can you see a work environment wherein bosses will ask you to call them on a first name basis and will insist that you tell them what’s on your mind?
I had a really good time in that company. I had a really great time working alongside my US counterparts. Accountants just like me who are so helpful and I never did experience any bad treatment from them. And the country manager? The best memory I had of him was when he asked me to make 50 checks to 50 different agents for their incentives. I was the only person from the Finance department left that time because it was month-end close and I was busy closing the books. I was so mad at him because I had a pile of things to do and it’s a Friday! I just felt that work was so unfair to me that time. I told him in an email that he couldn’t just ask me right away to make 50 checks like I was just going to rip it off the checkbook just like that. I told him that I had other things to do and that making 50 checks was not a priority of mine that time. I was really angry that I was working on the eve of a holiday that I forgot I was sending out the email to the top man of the company.
You know what happened? He called me to his office and apologize! Yes, the country manager, the top man of the company apologized to me for being bossy and demanding (when he wasn’t really!). I was really prepared to be reprimanded for speaking my mind but, hey, the Americans do it differently! I can never ever forget that night. I told myself that it’ll become my standard for being a boss. Speak your mind. And even if we shout at each other right now because we’re arguing over a company rule, afterwards, there’s no hard feelings. We’d be back to being friends.
Advance Happy Thanksgiving to everyone, especially my American friends and visitors!
Every gift is your way of expressing how you feel about another person. – Oprah
When I was much younger than I am today, I couldn’t afford to give really good gifts to family and friends. Funds were very limited and had to be allocated for school allowance only. The times I had extra went to buying candies and chocolates for me and my siblings and my cousins. Nothing more than that.
That’s why I just didn’t get the hang of finding the right gift. Even with my siblings, I feel like I am always giving the wrong thing! Now that I have some funds to spare, I still don’t know how to buy the proper gift for love ones.
Each gift you give to someone special to you might be a symbol of how you feel for that person. But if it’s the wrong one, does it mean that the recipient means less to the giver? I don’t think so. I do think it’s still the thought that counts in the end.
I have a temper problem. I easily flare up. There are days when I can control my temper and even when provoked, I stay patient and calm. But most of the time, I am easily provoked and this even on trivial matters!
I try to be positive all the time. But I am only human and I get angry, too.
I procrastinate a lot. I admit that. I know I shouldn’t but I can’t help but do it. I always have something to do daily and when it’s time for me to do what’s needed to be done – pending tasks and all that – I find myself taking a bit of a break. Bad timing but my body feels the need for a break, I really need to or I won’t finish anything.
But the break is still procrastination. Whatever I call it, I know that I am just procrastinating and it’s affecting my work schedule already.
I was not able to see John Mayer live in concert last October 1st. I was originally planning to go last May when the concert was postponed to this month. And when it’s just a week to go before the concert, I changed my mind. I opted to use the money intended for it to buy some really good books.
Bleh, I know.
I kind of regret that I didn’t go. My friend Shen went and she had a blast! I was green with envy when she posted about it in Facebook. Oh well.
A few minutes ago, I saw an article written about the concert. The writer, after the concert, was left wanting for more! Waahhh!!! I should have gone! He sang No Such Thing (my favorite of all his songs!), Waiting on the World to Change, Your Body Is a Wonderland, and that’s it among all the songs that I like from him. He didn’t sing Say which is another favorite. And Back To You or A Love Song For No One or Dreaming With A Broken Heart. There are so many other songs that he could have sung but he just did a couple and that’s it.
I regret not being there live. But with the number of songs he sang, and the heavy downpour while the concert was ongoing, I don’t think it’s really worth the ticket price.
Here’s a video of No Such Thing. Ahhh… brings back so many good memories! ♥
When it comes to gadgets, I am very practical. I don’t buy what’s “in”. I buy what I really need. With cellphones, I buy ones that have multi-functions for me. I have an old Smartphone and my new Nokia C3. Both are very affordable. I bought the Smartphone years ago from a friend. I bought it not only for the call and text functions of it. It can also be used as an ebook reader, a music and video player, and it can be loaded with so many applications like a Lextionary (dictionary for Smartphones).
Now with my Nokia C3… It was a gift to me by my lovable sister Meng. It was very affordable, too and it has social networking functions that I like. I don’t go for the expensive phones because that would be impractical for me. I am not much of a texter or caller so a simple one will do. Like my Nokia C3!
My Own Utopia was conceived when my main blog became too "commercialized". I needed a more personal place, my own utopia, where I can write about my personal experiences, the blessings that come my way, my faith, inspirations in my life, and other things that has a more personal tone.
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